No One Way To Be A Man
Written by Ben Wilkoff
You know that thing where you want to buy something just for yourself, but you really don’t want to talk with your partner about it because you have convinced yourself that there doesn’t need to be a conversation about every little thing we buy, even though you know that it should be a conversation because […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
The great diversity of humanity is astounding. I feel so ridiculously lucky to observe it and take part in it. I see tattoos that crisscross others bodies I see canes and other modes of support. I see sandals and hiking boots and tennis shoes and orthopedics, stylish, expensive and barely holding together. I see long […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
For our fourth song in this series, I have chosen Problem Solver by Slim Dan. This is a very new song, having only been released earlier this month. I first heard it as a live TikTok video and I loved it so much that I went to his profile, found his email address and contacted […]
Written by Matt Morrisson
Author’s Note: A version of this was previously published as an episode of my podcast “Crazy Day”, which can be found here Some of my favorite questions to ask are the ones that seem easy to answer initially, but show their depth the more you try to work at the answer. A popular topic for […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
For our first song, we are going to tackle Don’t Tell the Boys by indie rock artist and absurdist TikTok comedian, Petey. I became familiar with his music long before I found that he wrote and performed hilarious sketches, so I feel fairly comfortable looking at his music without having to comment on his particular […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
The Detoxing Man is Engaged (by courageous acts of self-discovery) I met my wife in the cafeteria of a newly constructed dorm on the University of Denver campus in the late summer of 2002. I overheard her and her friends asking about vegetarian options, and I made a mental note about it as I paid […]
Written by Steven Coriell Jr.
Growing up in a deeply religious and conservative community in South Louisiana, I was taught that there were only two options when it came to sexuality – you were either gay or straight. And, as a member of a Baptist church, being gay was considered a sin. So, from a young age, I repressed this […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
The Detoxing Man is Loving (in the open and in private) I have always struggled to be one person within our home and another person outside of it. It feels wrong to put on a brave face for the world when I’m in conflict with the most important people in my life. It chafes at […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
The Detoxing Man is Capable (of love, of complexity, of listening) My wife and I had a fight in the Cleveland airport just after visiting my home town for the first time in the winter of 2002. We had been together for only a few months at that point, and after the fight I thought […]
