No One Way To Be A Man
Written by Ben Wilkoff
The vast majority of the comments that I get on my TikTok videos are incredibly positive, supportive and reflective of the wide diversity of kindness that the world has to offer. They are life affirming thoughts of shared humanity, and they make it incredibly easy to keep going and making more videos on my Masculinity […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
When I started The Masculinity Detox, I sought out a diverse group of people who I respect for advice and thoughts on how best to support others in reducing toxic behavior. One such person was a long-time friend and a former colleague in Denver Public Schools. As a non-white married lesbian with a school-aged son, […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
It should not fall solely on Women who date men to identify the red flags of the men in their lives. Just like the feminist critique of the #NotAllMen fallacy, we have an important responsibility to call out when men’s toxic behavior gets in the way of creating positive and lasting relationships. But, it isn’t […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
In this short video, Matty Boy defines their terms. They start by laying out Toxic Masculinity as one that forces violence, solitude, and rigid adherence to gender roles. Then they define “Soft Masculinity,” a term with which I was thoroughly unaware. They describe it as acceptance of other types of manhood, one that can be […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
The Detoxing Man is Trusted (to root out injustice wherever it is found). I do not face oppression in my daily life. As a married white straight-passing gainfully employed able-bodied cisgendered American man who was born into a two-parent household, both of whom held advanced degrees, I know that I won the lottery of privilege. […]
