No One Way To Be A Man
Written by Ben Wilkoff
For our fourth song in this series, I have chosen Problem Solver by Slim Dan. This is a very new song, having only been released earlier this month. I first heard it as a live TikTok video and I loved it so much that I went to his profile, found his email address and contacted […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
So rarely have I seen a film that fully encapsulates the work of The Detoxing Man as I saw on Friday in watching The Last Black Man in San Francisco. The story is of Jimmy and Montgomery, two black men who are struggling to survive in the face of rapid gentrification and a world that […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
For our first song, we are going to tackle Don’t Tell the Boys by indie rock artist and absurdist TikTok comedian, Petey. I became familiar with his music long before I found that he wrote and performed hilarious sketches, so I feel fairly comfortable looking at his music without having to comment on his particular […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
Jule Kim introduces a concrete metaphor comparing emotional intelligence to a set of markers. She says that some people only have 3 markers to work with, only three shades with which to express or reciprocate emotions. Others have far more, a full spectrum of colorful emotions with which to experience life. I really appreciate the […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
The Detoxing Man is Engaged (by courageous acts of self-discovery) I met my wife in the cafeteria of a newly constructed dorm on the University of Denver campus in the late summer of 2002. I overheard her and her friends asking about vegetarian options, and I made a mental note about it as I paid […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
The Detoxing Man is Unfinished (with himself and with his relationships) We play a lot of board games as a family. From Codenames to Monopoly, Exploding Kittens to Ticket to Ride, we play even when there are other things that we would rather be doing on our own. The games, for us, are a momentary […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
The Detoxing Man is Capable (of love, of complexity, of listening) My wife and I had a fight in the Cleveland airport just after visiting my home town for the first time in the winter of 2002. We had been together for only a few months at that point, and after the fight I thought […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
The Detoxing Man is Active (in body and mind) I walk my youngest son to and from the bus stop nearly every day. We live in a neighborhood where all of the children gather just outside the entrance huddling in preparation for the bus. So, we leave our house a few minutes early every morning, […]
