No One Way To Be A Man
Written by Ben Wilkoff
The Detoxing Man is Caring (for others and himself). Self-care looks different for me than it does for my wife. For one, she is incredibly good at it. She has done the important work of looking within and finding things that will rejuvenate her. She goes to yoga or the gym most days of the […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
The Detoxing Man is Adaptable (of spirit and intention). I have often said that I’ve been married at least 5 times, and it is just lucky that they have all been to the same person. I am not the same man I was when I got married at 21 or the same man at 23 […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
The Detoxing Man is Responsible (for both intended and unintended consequences of his actions) I am responsible for the shuttle service required to get my children to and from their activities. My wife makes sure their lives are filled with these incredible experiences, but I am usually the one who makes sure that they actually […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
The Detoxing Man is Engaged (by courageous acts of self-discovery) I met my wife in the cafeteria of a newly constructed dorm on the University of Denver campus in the late summer of 2002. I overheard her and her friends asking about vegetarian options, and I made a mental note about it as I paid […]
Written by Steven Coriell Jr.
Growing up in a deeply religious and conservative community in South Louisiana, I was taught that there were only two options when it came to sexuality – you were either gay or straight. And, as a member of a Baptist church, being gay was considered a sin. So, from a young age, I repressed this […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
The Detoxing Man is Capable (of love, of complexity, of listening) My wife and I had a fight in the Cleveland airport just after visiting my home town for the first time in the winter of 2002. We had been together for only a few months at that point, and after the fight I thought […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
The Detoxing Man is Sincere (in word and deed). I have never been very funny. You can ask my wife who I have known for two full decades or my children who I have known for 16, 14 and 8 years respectively. And yet, humor is an essential part of my existence. It is one […]
