No One Way To Be A Man
Written by Matt Morrisson
**Author’s Note: This blog was previously released in a modified form as Episode 28: “Subtle Shifts” of my podcast, Crazy Day I remember the day I discovered the hidden puppet master that was controlling my life. I remember the shock of seeing him for the first time. I remember the growth I felt as I […]
Written by Steven Coriell Jr.
Recently, an encounter set off some self reflection in me. Really, it’s not just this specific interaction, but rather a multitude of events that has pushed me to deeply examine the person I once was. I have been carrying an uncomfortable amount of shame from my past self, I’ve noticed it comes up whenever I […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
For our third song in this series, I have taken a recommendation from @sam.i_am to look into Little Lion Man by Mumford & Sons. In it, the singer tries to give advice to a young boy who is struggling to hold on to courage, grace, and his own heart. The song shows just how hard […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
For our second song in this series, I have chosen one of my all-time favorites, Twin Size Mattress by The Front Bottoms. In it, the protagonist stumbles his way toward being a good friend as he “contributes to the chaos” within his own life. The song shows how complex it is to find a positive […]
Written by Matt Morrisson
Author’s Note: A version of this was previously published as an episode of my podcast “Crazy Day”, which can be found here Some of my favorite questions to ask are the ones that seem easy to answer initially, but show their depth the more you try to work at the answer. A popular topic for […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
There is something universal about “pushing others away” when things get to hard, emotionally or otherwise. We often find it hard to fully embody our feelings without lashing out at others. We want others to reject us first so that we don’t have to look inward to find out what is really going on. We […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
John Doe Nobody’s rapid fire video shows just how often we comment on a boy’s worth as it relates to their sexuality. From penis size to penchant for porn, a boy is told exactly what his sexuality should be and the best possible ways to express it so that everyone else sees he is normal. […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
My father once told me that he loved his three boys equally, but he didn’t love us all the same. What I took him to mean by this is that he did not love any one of his sons more than any other, but that the way he showed his love was different for each […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
The Detoxing Man is Supportive (of identity and growth). I sat with my oldest son today, watching him learn how to give himself testosterone shots, how to measure it just right and stay safe with the sharp needles. I watched him excitedly inject saline solution into “the inch he could pinch” near his belly button, […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
The Detoxing Man is Loving (in the open and in private) I have always struggled to be one person within our home and another person outside of it. It feels wrong to put on a brave face for the world when I’m in conflict with the most important people in my life. It chafes at […]
