No One Way To Be A Man
Written by Ben Wilkoff
I drink or get high because I am not in touch with my emotions. Most of the time I can only feel attached to them when some part of me has lowered inhibitions and lets me connect to what I’m feeling. It is also why it’s so hard to be sober, sometimes. Not because I […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
I am a huge fan of the work that Laura Danger does on TikTok to help us all to eliminate toxic behavior in the form of Weaponized Incompetence, where (mostly) men use their insufficient skill at emotional labor, domestic labor, or any other perceived “women’s work” in order to justify their actions. I watch many […]
Written by Ben Wilkoff
When I started The Masculinity Detox, I sought out a diverse group of people who I respect for advice and thoughts on how best to support others in reducing toxic behavior. One such person was a long-time friend and a former colleague in Denver Public Schools. As a non-white married lesbian with a school-aged son, […]
