The Masculinity Detox


The Masculinity Detox


Resources to support your Masculinity Detox Journey

Obviously, we aren’t the only ones engaged in defining and embracing a more authentic and positive masculinity. These resources have been curated from some of our favorite creators!

Book Recommendations

These fall into two categories: non-fiction books that help deconstruct masculinity and fiction books that present examples of positive masculinity or emotional maturity.

Video Creators

TikTok and YouTube represent some of the best discourse about modern masculinity available. These creators are some of the best available resources for diving into your own lived experience.

Peer Organizations

While there is no place quite like The Masculinity Detox, there are quite of few organizations that are helping to dismantle patriarchy and other systems of oppression. These are just a few of them.

Book Recommendations

Touchstone texts to help you think and act.

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“The effects of traditionally defined masculinity have become one of the most prevalent social issues of our time. In this engaging and provocative new book, beloved actor, director, and social activist Justin Baldoni reflects on his own struggles with masculinity. With insight and honesty, he explores a range of difficult, sometimes uncomfortable topics including strength and vulnerability, relationships and marriage, body image, sex and sexuality, racial justice, gender equality, and fatherhood.

 Writing from experience, Justin invites us to move beyond the scripts we’ve learned since childhood and the roles we are expected to play. He challenges men to be brave enough to be vulnerable, to be strong enough to be sensitive, to be confident enough to listen. Encouraging men to dig deep within themselves, Justin helps us reimagine what it means to be man enough and in the process what it means to be human.”

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“In this bold and stylish critique, Cornell philosopher Kate Manne offers a radical new framework for understanding misogyny. Ranging widely across the culture, from Harvey Weinstein and the Brett Kavanaugh hearings to “Cat Person” and the political misfortunes of Elizabeth Warren, Manne’s book shows how privileged men’s sense of entitlement—to sex, yes, but more insidiously to admiration, care, bodily autonomy, knowledge, and power—is a pervasive social problem with often devastating consequences.


In clear, lucid prose, Manne argues that male entitlement can explain a wide array of phenomena, from mansplaining and the undertreatment of women’s pain to mass shootings by incels and the seemingly intractable notion that women are “unelectable.” Moreover, Manne implicates each of us in toxic masculinity: It’s not just a product of a few bad actors; it’s something we all perpetuate, conditioned as we are by the social and cultural mores of our time. The only way to combat it, she says, is to expose the flaws in our default modes of thought while enabling women to take up space, say their piece, and muster resistance to the entitled attitudes of the men around them.”

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”A nonfiction investigation into masculinity, For The Love of Menprovides actionable steps for how to be a man in the modern world, while also exploring how being a man in the world has evolved.


In 2019, traditional masculinity is both rewarded and sanctioned. Men grow up being told that boys don’t cry and dolls are for girls (a newer phenomenon than you might realize—gendered toys came back in vogue as recently as the 80s). They learn they must hide their feelings and anxieties, that their masculinity must constantly be proven. They must be the breadwinners, they must be the romantic pursuers. This hasn’t been good for the culture at large: 99% of school shooters are male; men in fraternities are 300% (!) more likely to commit rape; a woman serving in uniform has a higher likelihood of being assaulted by a fellow soldier than to be killed by enemy fire.

In For the Love of Men, Liz offers a smart, insightful, and deeply-researched guide for what we’re all going to do about toxic masculinity. For both women looking to guide the men in their lives and men who want to do better and just don’t know how,For the Love of Men will lead the conversation on men’s issues in a society where so much is changing, but gender roles have remained strangely stagnant.”

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My Shadow Is Pink is a beautifully written rhyming story that touches on the subjects of gender identity, self acceptance, equality and diversity. Inspired by the author’s own little boy,  the main character likes princesses, fairies and things “not for boys.” He soon learns (through the support of his dad) that everyone has a shadow that they sometimes feel they need to hide.This is an important book for a new generation of children (and adults alike) which exemplifies the concepts of unconditional love, respect and positive parenting.

Video Creators

Thought-provoking ideas from diverse voices.


Phenomenal TikTok commentator who is all about dismantling the Patriarchy.


Her “woke bros” series deeply resonates on topics from  burnout to body dysmorphia, from abortion rights to STI’s.


Trans male perspective on positive masculinity, vulnerability, men’s health, and dangerous ideologies.


TikToker with a PhD in Education who focuses his energy on helping men and boys to be in touch with their emotions.


Anti-misogynistic Hip-Hop and important ideas about a more respectful and mature masculinity.


Incredible video-essays on popular culture that highlight positive displays of “Empathetic Manhood.”


Thoughts on Patriarchy from a a leader in the faith deconstruction movement.


English professor creating consistent commentary on Men, Manhood, and Masculinity.


Boudoir photographer who actively works against toxic masculinity and for body positivity.

Peer Organizations

Institutions with shared purpose.

A Call To Men

Dedicated to embracing and promoting a healthy, respectful manhood that prevents all forms of gender-based violence.


Division 51

Society For The Psychological Study Of Men And Masculinities - recognizing the need to study, to challenge, and to improve societal systems.


Next Gen Men

A small-but-mighty nonprofit whose work is dedicated to one really ambitious thing—to change how the world sees, acts and thinks about masculinity.



Center for Masculinities and Social Justice works to promote gender equality and create a world free from violence by engaging men and boys.