A Space for Healthy, Mindful, and Authentic Expressions of Masculinity.
The Alpha Male is a myth. Suppressing our emotions can literally shorten our life-spans. And, a rigid adherence to traditional masculine ideology leads only to our alienation, depression, and an increased likelihood of self-harm.
So, we need an alternative. We need a place where discussions are more than a series of machismo-laden shouting matches, where displays of emotion are celebrated, and where deep connections can be formed and maintained.
The Masculinity Detox is an inclusive community focused on deconstructing the harmful notions of what it means to be “a real man.”
Our intention is to be as human as possible within this platform. So, we take the creation and tending of our community very seriously. Trolls are not welcome, but emotionally messy human beings certainly are.
There are important topics to discuss, members to connect with, “detox quests” to embark upon, and badges to earn. It is our hope that you never lack for positive ways to engage within the community or ways in which you can contribute to someone else’s learning.
Because rigidly prescriptive masculinity does not only impact Cis-Het white men, we believe that our community must include all voices, including people of color, women, non-binary individuals, as well as members of the LGBTQIA+ community.
The public internet is seemingly filled with nothing but trolls, bullies, and more than enough racism to make you want to log off forever. Fortunately, our platform is built from the ground up to keep each of these at bay.
By learning from other harassment-free communities that have come before (Geek Feminism, The National Guild for Community Arts Education, Buy Nothing, and Community.club to name a few), we have forged our own Community Agreement that helps keep our members safe.
Our community is built upon trust, for one another and for the platform itself. And, when we truly listen to one another, we find that it is all too easy to interact in ways that contribute to an open, welcoming, diverse, and inclusive community.
Emotion is the currency of connection. Therefore, we express our emotions and forge our connections through shared experience, even if those experiences are mediated by a keyboard or a screen.
Every month within The Masculinity Detox community, we launch new events, collaboration challenges, and discussion topics. You can take part in as many or as few as you like!
You can register for any of the upcoming events below:
Even if you aren’t ready to dive in head first to the community and take advantage of all that it offers, you might be interested in our weekly Journal filled with:
As the premier space for connecting with others who want to redefine masculinity to embrace a holistic understanding of self and to eliminate the structures of male supremacy, our features make it easy to do just that:
Find new people within the community by diving into fun self-reflection questions within our personalized profile.
You should be rewarded for doing the deep personal work it takes to dismantle systems of oppression. Visible recognition of that work is a great place to start!
Wouldn’t it be great to have honest discussions in a safe environment? Our platform is a harassment-free environment where we strive for understanding rather than “winning arguments.”
You decide what others can see about you. You can share photos and posts on your own profile, within private groups, or in the open forums. You decide the level of privacy you are most comfortable with!
We have built the platform to allow for connections across time-zones and to enable anytime-anywhere learning. If you would prefer to turn on dark-mode at night, you can do that too!
You can start groups based upon location, areas of interest, or just to have a private area for your closest connections. We have built the platform to allow for even the toughest conversations to be safe.
We know that some of you may have lots of questions about the community, how it works, and what you can and cannot do, so here’s a list of the most common questions we get asked:
If you have any further questions, just send us an email to firstname.lastname@example.org
This community is open to anyone who does not wish to do harm to its members or to the pursuit of a better masculinity. The Official TMD Community Agreement can be found here, and was heavily inspired by these fine peer communities: Geek Feminism, The National Guild for Community Arts Education, Buy Nothing, and Community.club.
Basic membership is and will always be free! However, if you want to help pay for server and other administration costs, you can become a contributing member (1 time) or sustaining member (monthly).
Of course! The best way to ensure the community thrives is to invite others to join.
Ben Wilkoff had the original idea, but his wife and kids helped a lot.
Nope. We just want it to work better for everyone and we think the best way to do that is to create an inclusive place for folks to talk about it.
Choose Your Membership:
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